So when it comes to encounters with cops, the rules have changed for parents. It's almost a miracle if your kid doesn’t get arrested, or face the prospect of it, at some point in his or her march to adulthood. Many times, it won’t even be his or her fault!

With these times in mind, then, let’s discuss some  things you need to know and tell your kid to keep him (or her) out of jail.

  1. Fix that broken tail light. Traffic stops are the number one source for encounters with law enforcement. Since most kids are driving hand-me-down cars (even nicer models), the odds are that something is going to break.  It’s what draws a patrol officer’s attention to your car – a missing light, or an expired tag, or windows that are too darkly tinted. Once a cop spots something amiss, a traffic stop is almost certain to occur.
  2. Never give a cop consent to search your car or your person. When a police officer conducts a lawful traffic stop, he’s entitled to ask for your driver license, registration and proof of insurance.   And if you’re issued a citation, there’s no reason not to sign it or argue with the officer;.  Once the citation has been issued, however, an officer could ask you for permission to search your car. It may sound something like this:  "Would you mind if I searched your vehicle?” It’s a lawful request, and often a teenager is intimidated into giving consent because, hey, it’s a cop! But there is no obligation to consent to a search… that’s why it’s called “consent”!  It’s ALWAYS a bad idea to give a stranger (even a cop) permission to search your car. Instead, you should ask one question: “Officer, am I free to leave?” This forces the cop to make a decision: if he’s merely fishing for a free search, he’s going to admit that you are, in fact, free to leave. If he has reasonable suspicion, it forces him to inform you that he can obtain a warrant to search your car, which is the proper thing to do. If he obtains a warrant and conducts a search, there’s nothing to do but sit back and see what happens. Immediately call your parents and advise them what is happening. You are now officially being detained, and your fourth amendment rights have just been activated. Your parents can decide whether to hire a lawyer to explain what all those rights are.
  3. Never give a statement to a law enforcement officer without your attorney present. One of the rights your lawyer will advise you of is the right to remain silent.  Sometimes well-meaning parents march their kid into a police station or sheriff’s office to “straighten out this mess,” and answer the good officer’s questions. Almost every time, the result is the kid is marched back out in handcuffs and delivered to the local jail or juvenile detention center, facing serious misdemeanor or felony charges because he or she gave a full, complete, and voluntary statement implicating himself or herself in a variety of criminal offenses.
  4. Get a criminal defense lawyer.  In these days of specialization,you wouldn’t go to your orthopedic surgeon if you suspected you hadcancer. So why would you go to a police station with a divorce lawyerwhen a cop wants to interview you about a burglary, or an aggravatedbattery? If things have already come to the point of police involvement,find a good criminal defense lawyer.  Be prepared to spend some money. There are a number of factors involved in determining a fee for attorney services, including the local market, the attorney’s expertise, and the complexity of the case.  There are plenty of honest, bright and ethical lawyers who don’t have all the fancy trappings and are perfectly capable of handling your case. Find a lawyer you have confidence in, then follow his or her advice.
  5. Don’t be in a hurry to resolve your case. If the worst happens, and you find yourself arrested, or even confined, remember that a conviction is forever.If the offense is not that significant, such as a simple possession case, most of the time there will be an opportunity for some type of pre-trialdiversion. With more serious cases, such as felonies or violent crimes, time often negatively impacts the state’s case, and improves the defense’ scase. Witnesses move or go to college, more serious offenses takeprecedence with the court, budget cuts overload overworked prosecutors,and the older cases are more easily negotiated. A competent defense attorney knows the system and can navigate you through the process withas little exposure as possible. The six months (or even a year) your casemay take could work to your advantage with more serious cases. So let things work themselves out and give your lawyer time to do his or her thing.

You may have noticed that the things that will keep your kid out of jail will also keep you out of jail! All this ”zero tolerance” stuff doesn’t just impact kids; plenty of adults have found themselves in situations they neverimagined because they were just trying to be “helpful” to a law enforcementofficer.  Don't think this is an anti cop article with this information. Most of thehonest ones (and most police officers are honest) tell their kids the same things.Keep your car in good repair, keep the music turned down low enough so you can hear a siren behind you, be polite and professional, and remember the question: 

“Officer, am I free to leave?”

Warning Signs on Teen Suicide

  • a change in eating habits, gain weight or loss of appetite.
  • a change in sleeping habits, sleeping much more or have insomnia
  • withdrawal from friends, family, and regular activities
  • ​violent actions, rebellious behavior, or running away
  • ​drug and alcohol use
  • ​teenage pregnancy
  • ​unusual neglect of personal appearance
  • ​fail to live up to his own or someone else's standards (when it comes to school grades, for example)?
  • dramatic personality change
  • ​persistent boredom, difficulty concentrating, restless or a decline in the quality of schoolwork
  • ​feel hopeless or guilty, and that life is not worth living
  • ​sudden mood or behavior changes: too quiet or too hyperactive
  • ​frequent complaints about physical symptoms, often related to emotions, such as stomachaches, headaches, fatigue, etc.
  • ​loss of interest in pleasurable activities
  • ​not tolerating praise or rewards
  • complain of being a bad person or feeling rotten inside
  • ​give verbal hints with statements such as: "I won't be a problem for you much longer", "Nothing matters", "It's no use", "I won't see you again", and "I'd be better off dead".
  • ​give away favorite possessions, clean his or her room, throw away important belongings, etc.
  • ​become suddenly cheerful after a period of depression
  • ​have signs of psychosis (hallucinations or bizarre thoughts)
  • ​have trouble with a girlfriend (or a boyfriend)? Or have trouble getting along with other friends or with parents?
  • ​write notes or poems about death.
  • talk about suicide. Say things like "I can't take it anymore," or "Nobody cares about me". Suicide

Things You Need to Know to Keep Your Kid Out Of Jail

These are perilous times to be a teenager. Kids in this generation are faced with a barrage of temptations that didn’t exist for earlier generations.  In this era of ”zero tolerance,” it’s become tougher to be a teenager, and discretionary action by teachers, judges and police officers has become almost non-existent.


Missing Person

Reports of missing persons have increased sixfold in the past 25 years, from roughly 150,000 in 1980 to about 900,000 this year. The increase was driven in part by the country's growing population. But the numbers also indicate that law enforcement treats the cases more seriously now, including those of marginalized citizens.

An astounding 2,300 Americans are reported missing every day, including both adults and children.

But only a tiny fraction of those are stereotypical abductions or kidnappings by a stranger.

For example, the federal government counted 840,279 missing persons cases in 2001. All but about 50,000 were juveniles, classified as anyone younger than 18.


loss of interest in family activities

loss of interest in

  • disrespect for family rules
  • ​withdrawal from responsibilities
  • ​verbally or physically abusive
  • ​sudden increase or decrease in appetite
  • ​disappearance of valuable items or money
  • ​not coming home on time
  • ​not telling you where they are going
  • ​constant excuses for behavior
  • ​spending a lot of time in their rooms
  • ​lies about activities
  • ​finding the following: cigarette rolling papers, pipes, roach clips, small glass vials, plastic baggies, remnants of drugs (seeds, etc.)

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Child Custody and Visitation

IF  THE PARTIES  CANNOT REACH AN AGREEMENT on visitation and child custody matters, the court, not you,  will determine each parent's rights and obligations toward their children.  The court will make decisions about your children if:

  • you are going through a divorce (dissolution) and cannot agree on matters affecting the children.
  • you and the other parent were never married but one parent has asked the court for a legal order establishing the rights and obligations of each parent.
  • you are seeking a domestic violence restraining order and have children with the person to be restrained.

Custody refers to the responsibility of caring for the children and planning for their future. If you have children with another person, the end of that relationship usually does not mean the end of your contact with that person. Together you should try to agree on a plan that is best for your children. There are many different types of custody:

  • Joint custody means that both parents share physical and legal custody.
  • ​Sole physical custody means that a child will live with and be under the supervision of one parent. In this type of arrangement it is common for the other parent to have visitation.
  • ​Joint physical custody is defined as each parent having significant periods of physical custody with the child.
  • ​Sole legal custody means that one parent shall have the right and the responsibility to make the decisions relating to the health, education and welfare of a child. In Joint legal custody, both parents share these rights and responsibilities.

If you and the other parent cannot agree on a plan, the court will decide.  The official legal standard is always the child's "best interest".  The problem in many divorces or actions involving children is that there is not always a clear line that one parent is better than the other.  The policy favored by the courts is that arrangement which allows for frequent and continuing contact with both parents. Before the court makes these decisions, parents must go through a process with Family Court Services called "mediation".   But if there is a need for immediate orders, the court could issue them prior to mediation.

The National Center for Missing Adults, based in Phoenix, consistently tracks about 48,000 "active cases," says president Kym Pasqualini, although that number has been bumped up by nearly 11,000 reports of persons missing after this year's hurricanes.

In a phone interview, Pasqualini said a breakdown of the 48,000 cases reveals the democratic nature of America's missing persons.

Slightly more than half—about 25,500—of the missing are men. About four out of 10 missing adults are white, three of 10 black and two of 10 Latino.

Among missing adults, about one-sixth have psychiatric problems. Young men, people with drug or alcohol addictions and elderly citizens suffering from dementia make up other significant subgroups of missing adults.

About half of the roughly 800,000 missing juvenile cases in 2001 involved runaways, and another 200,000 were classified as family abductions related to domestic or custody disputes.

Only about 100 missing-child reports each year fit the profile of a stereotypical abduction by a stranger or vague acquaintance.

Two-thirds of those victims are ages 12 to 17, and among those eight out of 10 are white females, according to a Justice Department study. Nearly 90 percent of the abductors are men, and they sexually assault their victims in half of the cases.

To further complicate categorization of cases, the FBI designates some missing-person incidents—both adult and juvenile—that seem most dire as "endangered" or "involuntary."

For example, the agency deemed Taylor Behl, the 17-year-old college student missing in Richmond, Va., to be endangered. More than 100,000 missing persons, the vast majority of them children, are designated as endangered each year. About 30,000 are deemed involuntary.

Tips To ID A Cheating Spouse

Here's a list of critical signs that may help you find out the truth.

  • He/she starts telling lies for no reason.
  • ​He/she starts coming home at unusual times and refuses to give any rational explanation.
  • ​He/she suddenly starts exercising or going to the gym.
  • ​He/she buys a whole new wardrobe of fancy and flashy clothes.
  • ​He/she buys a new perfume/cologne.
  • ​He/she starts a new diet
  • ​He/she suddenly changes his/her driving pattern.
  • He/she buys new hot/sexy underwear.
  • ​He/she starts spending more money without giving any explanation.

Personal Safety

The largest obstacle to personal safety is you. Many people think "It can't happen to me" or "what's going to happen, is going to happen".

An attack against you or your family, a fire in your home or office, a potential fatal auto incident, or some other disaster can take place at any time. But you have the power to be IN CHARGE of what happens to you and your family by taking active responsibility for your own security.

Residential Security

  • Use quality locks on all entrances, including service doors and gates.
  • ​Don't leave keys "hidden" outside of your home.​
  • ​Keep doors locked even when you or family are at home.
  • ​Install locks on your fuse boxes or power panel and other external power sources.
  • ​If you have bars on your windows, review fire safety and escape routes with your family.
  • ​If you have security alarms, check and use them.
  • ​Keep at least one fire extinguisher on each floor, in addition to one in the kitchen.
  • ​Regularly check smoke detectors and the replace batteries.
  • ​Vary daily routines and avoid predictable behavior patterns.
  • Know where your family members are at all times.

Security for Children

  • Teach your children to never answer the door to strangers.
  • ​Children should know local emergency phone numbers or how to dial 911.
  • ​Children, even young ones, should know their name, address, and phone number.
  • ​Caution teenagers about "blind dates" or meeting someone they do not know or someone the met on the internet.
  • ​Let children know they should not give out personal information, such as home address, absence of adults, etc. over the phone or on the internet.
  • ​Teach children to say no to strangers or even people they know if they are uncomfortable with the situation.
  • Teach children how to get out of the house and where to go in case of emergency.

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